A Hard Hindrance to Success

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My blog’s subscriber count was significantly reduced and I feel very frustrated.

It’s not like it was something I did… my wife saw my blog and the interactions I was doing as part of the work needed to grow it, and decided to purge it of female subscribers. She also went and unsubscribed me from them.

I am unsure how to handle this, and what to do, but frankly, I am feeling frustrated.

I have no control over the gender of my readership, most specially because the topics I am posting on are gender neutral. It may interest both male and female audiences.  In fact, it would benefit me greatly as a writer if I have a wide audience, because that means more people read my works…

But that is not how she sees it. Interactions with the opposite gender is bad. So they need to be removed.

Should I shift my blog to something more male-centered to avoid this problem? Must I change who I am? Must I change the blog to talking about cars, sports and whatever male-centered content I can think of?

A Creator’s Life

A creative lives off of his patron’s support. Without people who will patronize his work, a creative’s work will be unable to support him. That is why bloggers want the high follower count, why artists need to have a lot of exposure for their art, and youtubers need the subscriber count. They all need the numbers to be able to put their work in front of as many people as possible so they could find their patrons.

Unlike food, clothing or shelter, art and novels, heck, even blogs, are not essential for living. People don’t necessarily have to spend on these for their daily life.

Airing out My Dirty Laundry

I probably should stop here before I put out any unnecessary personal information. I, after all, do not want to air out my dirty laundry in front of everyone. However, I am posting this as a sort of explanation as to why I probably disappeared from your subscribers, or you might have been dropped from my subscribers.

I apologize for any inconvenience this might have caused you.

Moving Forward

Like I said, I still don’t know what to do, and my motivation to build my readership sort of have taken a nose-dive.

My goal is to be a published fiction writer. However, I am not sure what will happen if I do manage to make myself published.

There are a lot of questions in my mind, and a lot of things I have to process.

I am thinking that I will just have to deal with it when that comes. I’m telling myself that I should not let these events affect me, and the work I am doing with this blog.

Anyway, I don’t know if my ramblings made any sense, or whatever… But I hope you have a nice day.

Thank you for reading.

Author: jomz

Web Designer and Developer, Graphic Artist. Writer.

6 thoughts on “A Hard Hindrance to Success”

  1. I’m so sorry to read this, Jomz. Your wife seems full of fear, and therein lies the solution perhaps. Is her fear more important to her than your creative aspirations? It’s so important for writers to have fans and a community of support, and blogging is a key vehicle for obtaining a following. It sounds like it might be time to discuss how you can nurture each other’s dreams.

  2. This one is a tough one. (Duh!)

    My knee jerk reaction is the gender of your readers, and who you read, does not matter. It doesn’t. You can’t help who’s interested in your work, nor who is an interesting/inspiring writer that you want to read.

    I’m also married and I understand what a relationship means, which is give and take.

    If you were going to clubs and chatting with people that’d be one thing. This is all virtual, right out in the open, so this is a much deeper issue than the gender of your readership.

    Best way to handle it? Communication. An honest, candid conversation. Not just to state your case to win her over. Start with why she feels it is so inappropriate. Try to understand where she’s at. Then you might be able to help her understand why she doesn’t need to worry, or why it isn’t a problem, that you have female followers.

    I wish you luck.

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