I accidentally whacked my wife on the face yesterday on the face (or probably on the neck area, I am not sure…) with cardboard while I was working on something.
I promptly said “sorry,” to which she replied:
“What can your sorry do?”
It got me thinking on, truly, what can the word “sorry” do? It’s just a word, right?
To that I’d have to disagree.
Sorry may be but a word, but it carries with it a weight in its meaning.
- You action was not intentional. Saying that you are sorry to someone states the fact that your act was unintentional. You may have caused another harm through your act, but you let them know that your action, and more specifically, the pain you caused them was not intentional.
- You acknowledge that you have caused them harm. By apologizing over an act you have done, you acknowledge that you have caused harm to another person. What would you feel if someone bumped into you, and kept on walking as if nothing happened? What a jerk, right? It is like you are an inferior individual compared to him – like a bug being squashed under his heels. Your existence was not even acknowledged, much more, the harm caused to you. By saying sorry, you are also saying that you acknowledge that you have caused another person harm.
- Repentance. A sincere apology carries with it the feeling of remorse over the act or harm caused to another.
While it’s true that the word “sorry” in itself is indeed useless. It can neither heal wounds, nor repair any thing that was broken… yet a sincere apology can be enough to heal hearts and mend any ill will that an action have inadvertently sown.
While sorry cannot fix everything, it can at least fix something – the other person’s feelings.
However, for “sorry” to bear any significant meaning, it must be sincere, or else, it would be nothing but a word.
While, it did take a bit of time, my wife started talking to me again… which is a relief. Hahaha…
Anyway, that is for now. I hope you have a nice day.